Over the past few weeks I have been discussing the “ban on brats.” I have received mixed opinions on wether this is a good or bad thing to ban children from some public places. I think that as long as parents make their children behave children should not be banned from airplanes, restaurants, and movie theaters. Just because we ban children does not mean that we are fixing bad parenting. There are some adults who act worse than children do when they are in public.
Children learn from the things they see and hear. Usually if a child is behaving badly in public and will not listen when their parents tell them to stop, they more than likely act the same way at home. If children are not made to listen and behave at home, they are not going to know how to behave in public. Even though, parents expect children to distinguish between the two and know when they need to behave.
There are some people that are comparing kids in public places to things like second hand smoke. Do some people really think children are as bad as second hand smoke? Really? This is crazy to me. I have two boys and I know if someone would tell me that my boys are just as bad a second hand smoke, it would really make me mad. I do not think that a child who behaves badly should be compared to something that is so bad. In the following article, http://childfreedom.blogspot.com/2011/07/brat-ban-is-catching-on.html the author talks about training your kids. We do not train our kids, we teach them. You train animals, not children.
There will never be a solution that will make everyone happy. Parents know how their children are going to behave in public places. So just be conscious of other people and their feelings. Some kids may be too young to take and see a movie because they cannot sit still or be quiet through the whole movie. Be considerate of others and leave them at home until they are old enough. People spend money to watch a movie and they expect to be able to watch and enjoy it.
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I completely agree with your blog. I recently had a restaurant experience with my 19 month old where she misbehaved badly. I accept responsibility of keeping her out past her bedtime and she was very hungry. My daughter had a meltdown because she did not get her way. I removed my daughter from the table and took her to the bathroom and made her stand in timeout. When we returned to the table, she was fine. Some people feels she deserved a spanking, but that is another issue in itself. I did everything I could do to keep her from disturbing others in the restaurant but also teach her how to behave in a restaurant. Toddlers behavior is unpredictable at best, so the occasional tantrum is bound to happen. I do not agree with not taking going out to eat until she is 4 or 5 years old. She will never learn unless I teach her. I will just make appropriate choices of child friendly restaurants. I personally would not enjoy taking her to a movie. Great blog!
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ReplyDeleteI have really enjoyed reading your blog every week and it was very enlightening at times.
I can't believe that people actually believe that a misbehaving child is equivalent to second hand smoke, or that children should be trained. You are correct in pointing out that animals are to be trained, not children. Obviously whoever made those ignorant comments has never had a child, because if they did they would never say something so asinine. My kids have, and still do drive me crazy at times, but I would never equate them with cancer causing poison.Great Blog Linda. Take Care.